Simon Mediation - Dan Simon, M.A., J.D.


Dan Simon, M.A., J.D.

Divorce Mediation & Parenting Dispute Resolution

Divorce Mediation in Minneapolis & Los Angelas

If you disagree with your spouse or your co-parent about something important, I can help you have the kind of conversation that’s most likely to get you to a better place. In this conversation:

  • I’ll support you in doing whatever it takes to feel like you’re making good decisions.
  • I’ll help you communicate to the other party about what’s most important to you.
  • And I’ll help you understand where the other party is coming from.

Most often, this conversation leads to a full agreement, as well as the comfort of being fully at peace with the other person.

Avoid More Coercive Approaches:

I don’t participate in any of the more coercive approaches that are now popular with judges and divorce lawyers. These include Early Neutral Evaluation (ENE), Parenting Time Expediting (PTE), Parenting Consulting (PC), and Custody Evaluations. All of these approaches take your power away and place it in the hands of someone you don’t know. These processes encourage you to continue fighting with the other party, because you can’t help but feel the need to persuade the ENE, PTE, PC or Evaluator that the other party is wrong. These processes make it much more likely that you’ll remain in conflict for a long time.  You should also avoid mediators who work too closely with lawyers.  They maintain their practices by providing a service that keeps lawyers very much involved, which leads to more referrals to them from lawyers.  My process is focused on you (and you’re welcome to include a lawyer if, and only if, you want to). Mediators who boast of high settlement rates often settle cases by putting pressure on you.  My cases also settle at very high rates, but only because you’ve been supported in following your own path toward decisions that you feel good about.

Other tips:

"I have to credit you, Dan, for setting the tone for us for this awful but unavoidable process. That one session with you - where you let us know that we were in charge, that legally speaking, the court would probably accept anything we presented as a united front - this guided me throughout. So thank you for setting the pace, the tone, the foundation for a more humane discourse. You provided us the idealogical framework we needed to proceed. I can say I acted with integrity and in a way that mitigated damage to my kids."
- Katy Madson