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Los Angeles Divorce Attorneys: Questions and Answers about Costs

January 26th, 2016

Question: How much do Los Angeles divorce attorneys charge for a divorce?

Answer: I know of couples who have paid their lawyers over $4 million for a divorce in Los Angeles. I know of other couples who have spent only around $15,000 each. And I know of many couples who have avoided lawyers entirely and completed the necessary paperwork on their own.

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Minnesota Divorce Attorneys: Questions and Answers about Costs

January 26th, 2016

Question: How much do Minnesota divorce attorneys charge for a divorce?

Answer: I know of couples who have paid their lawyers over $2 million for a divorce in Minnesota. I know of other couples who have spent only around $10,000 each. And I know of many couples who have avoided lawyers entirely and completed the necessary paperwork on their own.

Question: Why does a divorce in…

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5 Reasons Early Neutral Evaluation (ENE) is a Bad Choice for Divorce in Minnesota

December 27th, 2015

IT WORSENS THE CONFLICT: If you and your spouse disagree about some aspect of your divorce, there’s one sure way to worsen that conflict. ENE. If you add in an evaluator who pretends to know what a judge would do, it adds tension and fear to the situation. The possibility that the ENE Evaluator will tell you that the law is against you on…

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Best Family Law Attorneys in Los Angeles: None.

December 14th, 2015

When mediating a divorce (aka marital dissolution) in Los Angeles (or anywhere, for that matter), I often need to start by helping the couple undo the damage their lawyers have done.  Whether the issues are parenting, child custody, child support, spousal maintenance, property division, or any combination of those, lawyers always interfere with the communication between spouses.  Misunderstandings are always part of the story when Los…

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Best Divorce Lawyers in Minnesota: None at all

December 14th, 2015

The best divorce lawyer in Minnesota is no lawyer at all.  In very rare and extreme cases, they may be helpful, but the vast majority of the time family lawyers do more harm than good.  There are far better ways to deal with conflict with your spouse. If you disagree with your spouse about parenting, child support, spousal maintenance or property division, adding lawyers to the situation…

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The Potential of Transformative Mediation

April 6th, 2015

In the below video, here’s what I say about the potential of transformative mediation:

When we hear somebody saying. . . calling the other person a “filthy, dirty, rotten, bad person,” we’re right there supporting the conversation by saying, “Ah, so you’re saying that this other person is a filthy, rotten, bad person”. We believe in this model that just simply by reflecting what the…

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What’s the Process for Getting Divorced in Minnesota?

July 29th, 2011

Assuming that you are clear that you want to get divorced, the process for completing a divorce in Minnesota is pretty simple. The only serious complications that arise come from conflict with your spouse or over-reliance on lawyers, or both. Many of my clients go through a simple 2-step process: First, the couple has a conversation in which they figure out their plan for…

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How Do I Calculate Child Support in Minnesota?

July 22nd, 2011

It’s really up to you and your co-parent.  Yes, really.  This is different from how divorce lawyers see it, but the truth is, as long as you and your co-parent are happy with your agreement, it is completely up to the two of you (unless the person receiving child support is on public assistance, in which case the county will likely seek reimbursement from…

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But I’ve Heard the Judge Has the Final Say? Isn’t that True?

July 21st, 2011

Not really. Judges love it if you and your co-parent figure out what works for you, since judges understand that if you’re not both satisfied, there are likely to be problems in the future. If you and your co-parent don’t agree and you ask a judge to make a ruling, the judge will do so, but you and your co-parent still have a lot…

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Are Minnesota Divorce Lawyers Nothing But Scam Artists?

July 20th, 2011

Good question. I’ve certainly seen situations where divorce lawyers seem to do much more harm than good. But I don’t think it’s intentional on their part. Having been trained in the law myself, I understand how lawyers assume that it’s helpful to advise clients about what they’re “entitled to.” And it’s natural for lawyers to disregard the unintended consequences of that advice. I recently…

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